So, my answer to this popular query is always the same: If it occurs in nature, then yes, it is natural. The more we understand and can identify patterns, the better we can cope and even evade the trauma associated with them.And since extra-marital affairs have been in existence for just as long as the institution of marriage, I think it is time we stopped looking at affairs as heinous crimes and instead as a natural occurrences. Marriage was invented to legitimize offspring so that parents could pass down any assets acquired over their lifetime to heirs.Perhaps the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. As my friend Jenna* told me, "You can't help who you fall in love with.The love of your life just might be a married man." Being part of any couple can be challenging and unpredictable, as we all know.He has a wife, he has children, and he has commitments.
I would give up on having children of my own if it meant being with her.I thought about how many women had been in my position, waiting for a man to leave his wife.As the lover you get the edited highlights of a marriage: the laughter, the smiles, the sex. But what we lacked was emotional closeness — that lovely sense of wasting time together and the accompanying feeling of certainty. And I’ve made myself a promise: in my next relationship, I want Sunday nights and Monday mornings together, and all the boring minutiae of daily life that couples take for granted. Some emails have come from women who have been “involved” with these men for months, sometimes even years. It doesn’t matter how good the sex he gets from you is either. You see all these words and feelings he describes to you are just as much fantasy to him as they are to you. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh, but someone needs to make you women see what’s really going on in this situation.He’s lost the romance and spark he had at the beginning of his marriage, and you’re giving it to him. When a man is serious about a woman, he can’t stand being away from her. I feel for you, and I want you to find an amazing man of your own, not for you to take another woman’s, or for a man to treat you like a piece of meat. why would any woman do that to another woman's family - that's just garbage behavior.But when the man with whom you're involved is part of another couple, someone else's husband, then the challenge and unpredictability can make your life a messy, unhappy waiting game that you will rarely win.