But, as new and continuing research shows, there’s one loss that men could use a little help from their friends to cope with.Because we understand, many times without saying the words, where you’re at, how you got there and even why.A widower who lost his wife to cancer was accused of being a paedophile by Travelodge staff because he booked a double room for him and his daughter.Craig Darwell, 46, was taking Millie, 13, to visit Thorpe Park and was forced to book the double room in Chertsey, Surrey, because there were no others available.As though marrying again somehow blotted out the dead wife.One of our brides told us that when her best friend died of cancer at a young age, she was surprised at how soon her friend's husband had gotten seriously involved with another woman.Hawkins is the daughter of Don Hawkins and Velvet Sloan.
Mr Darwell, who lost his wife to leukaemia when Millie was just four, explained that he did not have ID for his daughter and instead showed staff pictures of them together when she was a baby.
The National Widowers’ Organization is a virtual toolkit for men coping with the loss of a loved one, a place where men can meet others going through the same transition. We famously won’t ask for directions, won’t admit when we are lost – we prefer to find our own way home. And it’s often help that only other men can provide.
We find great personal satisfaction in accomplishing on our own, independently. That’s the loss of a spouse or a lover or a parent or a child or a lifelong friend.
While this is probably true it can be difficult to hear. "I know she was a terrific woman and I'm sure I would have liked her." Then change the subject!
Don't let friends' comments make you feel like a second class citizen.