I talked to people who are living/have lived the three-Internet-dates-a-week life, and distilled their advice into some basic rules of thumb.
This is less of a rule and more of a fact to keep in mind: That guy you're on your first date with is on his fourth first date this month, and so are you.
I know I need to make a decision before things go too far (becoming too physical), but how do I know when?
I am trying not to let things move too fast physically or emotionally, but they both seem very interested and I just don’t know what to do.
Making a decision about a guy is no different than any other decision.
You weigh your pros and cons, you do your cost-benefit analysis, you use a little logic and a little emotion, and then make a largely arbitrary choice without knowing if you’re right.
"Now with dating more than one guy, I have been able to look at what each of them would add to my life and not feel pressured about one person.
Don't struggle with the juggle—we've rounded up a few ladies who have been there and done that to tell you exactly how to handle the tricky situations that come with playing the field."I was previously married for about six years and didn't really take the time to consider what I wanted out of a relationship or marriage," says Megan, 27.
The deception in and of itself was bad enough, as she was forging deep connections with both, but the worst part?
It Speeds up the Process of Meeting the Right Person Some people go on a first date and, wow, the magic and the sparks are there immediately.
But for others, they have to date someone many times, maybe even over weeks or months, to know whether there’s chemistry in the air—and they may need to date several people before they finally feel that “click.” If you immediately exclude all other guys or gals from the moment you have your first lunch date with someone until his or her annoying laugh causes you to bolt two months later, you may have to go through several mini-relationships in a row before you’re done. Going on dates with a few different good candidates around the same time helps you find out fast who’s wrong, without forcing you to wait and wait and wait to find out who’s right.
The problem is that I really like both of them and they both seem to be really amazing guys.
They follow up, they text, we talk, make plans…it’s all good. On the other hand, I don’t know how to manage this.