It’s not uncommon to see profiles that begin with “I am HIV-positive” and go on to list the poster’s other interests, as they do on the pet-lovers personals site Love Me Love My Pets.com, or JDate.com, which is for Jewish singles.Remember, though, there’s no reason you can’t use or She Wired or any other mainstream dating site.HIVDating Online.com, Poz Match.com, and Positive all welcome women who are straight, gay, or bi.Some sites, such as HIVNet.com, began as community sites in the ’90s and grew into dating sites as more members joined; that kind of start offers a sort of friendly, self-policing (no spam! Plenty of sites specific to other parts of your identity make disclosing your status easy.You can take medications that will help to prevent your baby from getting HIV from you. If you are sexually active or inject drugs (or have sex with someone who does), you are at risk for HIV.Many women are unaware of their partner’s current or past sexual or drug-taking behaviors.I am very impressed and I thank you for such an incredible resource."—John "I used poz personals for about 3 years and finally found someone. Keep the faith."—Jessica via Facebook "Just want to say that your site is the best of all the personals sites that I've been on.
The worst part was taking the medications and not being able to eat after it. "My mom always told my teachers [that I had HIV] because if I got a cut on the playground they would have to take care of it. I still think people are going to hate me or not want to be my friend when they learn I have HIV. My brother, he has told me he wishes he had it instead of me. That was the only time I got sick, [which] was in reaction to the change in medicines. I know it has gone this far and it is only going to get better. But I am not one to say, 'Look at me, this is what I have.' "I feel like people are more aware now than they ever have been. "My message to other people with HIV is that I know it is hard for people to cope with. If you care about them enough, they will be understanding. There are people out there like that, but I have not met them.
They wouldn't be understanding, so we kept it away from them.
Dating is tough in general, but being a woman who is HIV-positive presents a whole host of unique questions and issues.
The DHHS Office on Women's Health released two women's mental health publications during National Women's Health Week (May 11-15, 2009): Action Step for Improving Women's Mental Health and Women's Mental Health: What it means to you.
You may download or order free copies through the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration's Health Information Network (SHIN), or call 1-877-SAMHSA-7. Being diagnosed with HIV shouldn’t prevent you from getting pregnant.