You know those girls who refuse to date anyone younger than they are, much less anyone their own age? ) And I obviously have the matching theory as to why to go along with it (naturally, it involves being the younger sister).They have a specific, thought-out reasoning as to why they're only romantically compatible with guys who are older… Throughout my entire love life — or whatever you want to call what has been 23 years of going through men, some for longer than others — I have never so much as lusted after any guy who is younger than I am. Without going too much into my dating career, the main factor in all of my relationships — significant or otherwise — has always been the man's age.And at 19, she is old enough to drink despite the government saying she isn't. So why is there a stigma if a 28 year old is dating a 19 year? Judging from what my other boys have told me is that she's always been fond of older men. But I'm with you on the maturity and mental/knowledge aspect of it. I'm in the working world, and she'd be barely out of high school. My dad is 81 and my mom is 66 and people don't blink an eye.But that's a different subject for a different thread. My dad is 81 and my mom is 66 and people don't blink an eye. They key is whether people of those specific ages can find a true connection. So why is there a stigma if a 28 year old is dating a 19 year? That's not much of an age difference at all, I've got no problem with it.Rarely did our conversations ever evolve beyond the purely superficial, and when they did, her thoughts would typically wander off in almost every conceivable direction. I'm indifferent towards the whole thing, I'm on the fence to be honest, not sure if I could do it or not. Judging from what my other boys have told me is that she's always been fond of older men. But I'm with you on the maturity and mental/knowledge aspect of it. I'm in the working world, and she'd be barely out of high school.One of my boys is 26, and he's seeing a 19 year old..looks mature enough but I'm not sure. As long as she doesn't still act like a twitty little teenager, she's old enough to date a guy in his mid-20s. Not because of the age difference itself, but because I doubt I could find a deep connection at age 26 with a 19 year old woman from a mental/knowledge, or maturity standpoint. My dad is 81 and my mom is 66 and people don't blink an eye. Judging from what my other boys have told me is that she's always been fond of older men. But I'm with you on the maturity and mental/knowledge aspect of it. I'm in the working world, and she'd be barely out of high school.In tenth grade, we made friends with a group of older guys who hung out on the main street of town, which ran parallel to the local university — guys who'd once gone to our same high school and had never left the social scene. I remember how quiet it was, birds soaring overhead, no other sound. "Like we were supposed to be boyfriend and girlfriend, or something.""Well," she said slowly. I'd completely accepted her romance with an older guy as normal, even destined. When he wasn't upset, he was in kindness overdrive, buying me things: a gold necklace with a floating heart, stuffed animals.When they weren't doing BMX and skateboard tricks in front of the post office, they were spending what money they had at the nearby arcade, or spinning on stools and shooting straw wrappers in their favorite burger joint, just across the street. I grew to dread the moments we were alone, especially when I needed a ride home at the end of the night to make my curfew.
What about if your 10-year-old looks at you and says, "I'm ready to date, Dad"? There is so much a 12-year-old can teach a 10-year-old -- advanced coloring, advanced texting, and so many other important life skills. You're 20 years old and, under this rule, you can date a 17-year-old. There you are in college, and you get to go back to high school again to find a girlfriend.
To engage with an older guy is to peek inside a different point-of-view on life.
So, now that I've glorified older men enough (don't worry, young, 20-something lads, your day will come…
something I'm sure you all heard as freshman during “Hell Week”), the next logical step is to break down what goes into dating them. A challenge is enticing, but don't take it too far, lest you become an angry remonstrance.
Because those cologne-wearing, Dolce-upgraded, French-press-drinking, 30-something hunks are a whole different animal. He likely believes he's seen everything, or at least more than you because he's older, so prove him wrong. He'll be impressed and allured by your precocious disposition.4. You can't get totally obliterated Saturday night and ruin the whole next day because — guess what? Don't talk about the age difference — but if he brings it up, play it coy.