Whether the divorce was your idea or your spouse’s, most people find themselves experiencing negative emotions when their ex-spouse starts dating again. Here are 6 tips that will help you process those negative emotions: 1. You spent a large part of your life with this person, and during the years you were together, dating and married, you came to think of that person as YOUR significant other. These are common questions you may ask yourself when your ex-spouse starts dating again.Trust me when I say, you have no reason to be jealous or worried about any kind of relationship developing if you are dating a seasoned single mom.If you are with a very recently single mother she may still have feelings for her ex, after all, they did have a child together. Dating someone when an ex is still in the picture, even moreso when it is her child's father, can be a bit awkward at first. Single moms have much, much more to worry about than when you're going to call next.Remember what you think and what you feel can sometimes be at odds, but it’s perfectly normal to feel some jealousy and even look for things to criticize in your ex’s new partner. Divorce is not entered into lightly, and you probably have valid reasons for the divorce.And, if you've not moved on to a new relationship of your own, your jealousy may stem from the mere fact that they have. Keeping this in mind will help you to accept the changes that have come as a result and the confusing feelings you are having over your ex dating again.
When you go back to dating after your divorce, a few simple words of assurance will keep your ex feeling comfortable and this will work in your favor.
Though you may not understand the feelings you are having, they are a natural part of moving on after a divorce.
When you meet someone new, you will have a better perspective on how your ex is feeling about you and the relationship you both once had.2. Most people are puzzled as to why they are jealous of someone they didn’t want in their life any longer. This was YOUR husband or YOUR wife, you expected fidelity, and now it may feel like cheating to see them with someone else.
My previous blog ("Should You Date Your Ex-Spouse," dated 1/17/11) made the audacious proposal for considering dating an ex-spouse, since the likelihood of strong positive feelings when getting married could create a positive basis for a renewed relationship, if both parties have matured and stopped blaming each other.
Dating an ex-spouse should not be simply a response to loneliness, matter of convenience and/or lack of alternatives.