Women’s brains are more like spaghetti where everything is connected.
We are more likely to be worrying about our kids when we are at work and thinking about work when we are at home.
After that you can begin the fun, stopping when the time is up.
Some of it is quite creative or some may even say strange.
Since this is a “process addiction,” versus a chemical addiction, it is so hard for wives to understand. There are many different compartments so that he can divide his life up into separate components that don’t touch each other.
This lack of understanding can cause numerous misconceptions to be held as truths and can postpone healing. His marriage and family can be in one compartment, his job in another…you get the point.
It is possible for your husband to love you, even though he is looking at pornography. This is a benefit when a man is fighting in a war and able to focus on the task at hand without worrying about his family back home.
But it also makes a man able to look at pornography without thinking about how it may hurt you or his marriage.